Divorced Mom Of 3 Angry With Ex’s Christmas Gift Plan
Mom looking for advice from anyone that might be able to help.
Dealing with divorce is already one of the toughest things a family can go through. Not only is it hard on the adults but it's even harder when there are children involved and one Hudson Valley mom is struggling with how to handle the upcoming holidays when it comes to gift-giving and her ex-husband.
What the Heck is My Ex Thinking?
That's the question Christine asked us through email, here's what she wrote,
"This is our first Christmas since my husband and I split up and I understand that this year is going to be different. I'm a glass-half-full type of girl so the good thing is it means two Christmases for our kids! I'm planning on doing a very low-key Christmas with only a few thoughtful gifts for the kids. My ex, on the other hand, has informed me that he is planning on getting them huge gifts, they are 9, 11, and 13 so that means, video games, headphones, tablets, and so on. I'm beyond angry with his plan, it's like he's trying to buy their love! I am anxious that it might work. I'm just getting by and don't have the money he does. UGH! I do all of the day-to-day hard stuff with them and all he does is send a check and do two weekends a month and now this big Christmas. I feel sick about it. Should I say anything to the kids about this? Do you think I'm overreacting?"
I've said it so many times, divorce can be soooo hard!! Personally, I'm divorced and as far as gifts go with my two youngest kids, I speak with my ex way before the holidays, and we both talk out which one of us will get what for each of them and try to keep it as fair as possible for both of us. Co-parenting is no easy task but hopefully, over time it will get easier for this mom.
As far as advice goes, I would tell the ex that it bothers you that he's going this route. Don't yell and scream about it, try and talk to him and maybe he will see from your side and decide to have some of the big gifts come from the both of you. I know that's what I would do. What advice do you guys have? Call or text us through the station app.